Maryland Blogger: ActiveRain Practices: Deceased Members

ActiveRain Practices: Deceased Members

ActiveRain Practices: Deceased Members


Some of the newer members of ActiveRain may not know that some of the blogger members have passed away. Many of the reblogs were written by deceased members. It would be nice if there were some kind of designation or note indicating that they are no longer alive.

Perhaps the word 'Deceased' could be placed behind the name of the known dead and the word 'Inactive' could be placed behind the name of those who have not been on the site for a year or more.

My suggestion is not an effort to find ways to honor deceased members. That can be done in blog posts. I am only hoping for simple designations.

What are your thoughts on this topic? 



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Comment balloon 85 commentsRoy Kelley • November 26 2018 09:43PM


What a nice idea Roy. Yes, there are members who were important contributors to this site who are now gone. Good suggestion!

Posted by Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400, Long Island Home and Condo Specialists (The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803) 6 months ago

That may well be a group.....What say you Bob Stewart and Ben Kinney ...a way to recognize their contributions..

Posted by Sally K. & David L. Hanson, WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce (EXP Realty 414-525-0563) 6 months ago

Good morning Roy. I think it is a terrific idea! Enjoy your day!

Posted by Wayne Martin, Real Estate Broker - Retired (Wayne M Martin) 6 months ago

I do think it would be useful to know a poster won't be responding to comments. 

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, 6 months ago

I think it would be a great  idea.   I often wonder what has happened to some

Posted by William Feela, Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No. (WHISPERING PINES REALTY) 6 months ago

Good morning Roy. I agree with you completely. Perhaps a Emeritus designation.

Posted by Sheila Anderson, The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133 (Referral Group Incorporated) 6 months ago

Good morning Roy Kelley . What a great idea! You have my vote!

Posted by Peter den Boer, MBA,GRI, Associate Broker, Realtor (Atlanta Communities) 6 months ago

Roy, I agree with you. It is a great idea. I wonder if Bob Stewart will read this post.

Posted by Gita Bantwal, REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel (RE/MAX Centre Realtors) 6 months ago

Good morning, Roy Kelley what a nice idea.... Lou Ludwig's one year period of passing is coming up soon...Dec. 23rd... that would be wonderful for members to be remembered and recognized on this site....

Posted by Barbara Todaro, Marketing Agent for The Todaro Team (RE/MAX Executive Realty ) 6 months ago

Hi Roy... great suggestion. And I agree. Just don't know if AR management will take time to do something like this.

Posted by Nina Hollander, Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage ) 6 months ago

Thank you very much for your comments. It is always good to hear from you.

Posted by Roy Kelley (Realty Group Referrals) 6 months ago

Roy - good idea.  The most notable is Lou Ludwig.  He left a solid impression.

Posted by Grant Schneider, Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes (Performance Development Strategies) 6 months ago

I would support that happening and it would be nice to have the posts to draw inspiration and advice from.

Posted by Brian England, MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ (Arizona Focus Realty) 6 months ago

I like your idea, Roy. 

Posted by Lottie Kendall, Helping make your real estate dreams a reality (Compass) 6 months ago

That is a nice suggestion and a great way to honor those whose words still impact and delight us in the Rain.

Posted by Maria Sapio, Real Estate Agent- Carlisle, PA. (Keller Williams of Central PA) 6 months ago

Excellent idea, Roy.  I would like to see this implemented.

Posted by Gabe Sanders, Stuart Florida Real Estate (Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales) 6 months ago

Roy, many like to reblogs Lou's posts, and would be nice to give their profile a designation.  Great idea.

Posted by Joan Cox, Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time (House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373) 6 months ago


This is a great suggestion.  I like the idea of having a separate list to commemorate their contributions. A

Posted by Ron and Alexandra Seigel, Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy (Napa Consultants) 6 months ago

It would be nice to have an obvious designation on the profile, posts and the Leaderboard.

We never know when we will be posting our final blog. Write every one of them as you wish to be remembered.

Posted by Roy Kelley (Realty Group Referrals) 6 months ago

Great idea Roy Kelley - The powers to be should come up with something. Maybe they could add a video tribute as well with each person's last blog photo.  

Posted by Sheri Sperry - MCNE®, (928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR® (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) 6 months ago

Good morning,  Roy - it seems like the overwhelming majority of comments agree with your idea/suggestion.  I wonder how this would be implemented? Spam comments,  questions/ answers/posts and even profiles are too common. Just playing the devil's advocate...

Posted by Michael Jacobs, Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393 6 months ago

It sounds like a great idea to me, Roy.  I just learned the other day that John Mayer in Cocoa Beach, Florida had passed quite some time ago.

Posted by Myrl Jeffcoat, Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent (GreatWest Realty) 6 months ago

Myrl Jeffcoat 

Sadly, the fate of some of the members who have disappeared is unknown.

Posted by Roy Kelley (Realty Group Referrals) 6 months ago

I know of a few and there are others that have retired also. I think it is a good suggestion. I always see birthday wishes on Facebook for the deceased.

Posted by Joe Pryor, REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties (The Virtual Real Estate Team) 6 months ago

Hi Roy- I think this is an excellent idea!!! This community is like a living organism ...constantly changing. We need to recognize those members who have passed on. 

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) 6 months ago

I too think this is a good idea. Other social media outlets do this as well.

Posted by Chuck Willman, Utah Homes (Utah Homes) 6 months ago

Good evening Roy Kelley,

What a wonderful idea! I definitely think something should be done..thanks for the suggestion. Hopefully we will hear from Bob Stewart soon on this brilliant idea!

Posted by Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR, Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate (Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899) 6 months ago

Thank you for a very thought provoking post. I whole heartedly agree with your suggestion of having a special designation for those who have contributed and are no longer with us. What a wonderful way to honor their contribution, which continues to be inspiring to others.

Posted by William Collins, Property and Asset Management (ERA Queen City Realty) 6 months ago

Great idea. I agree if it is possible that it would be nice to do.

Posted by Mike McCann - Nebraska Farm Land Broker, Farm Land For Sale 308-627-3700 or 800-241-3940 (Mike McCann - Broker, Mach1 Realty Farmland Broker-Auctioneer Serving Rural Nebraska) 6 months ago

It is my understanding that it has been suggested many times. It does not appear to be a priority for the powers that be.  I like the idea ... and if it were put to vote, I'd give it a YES. 

Posted by Kathleen Daniels, San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist (KD Realty - 408.972.1822) 6 months ago

Well if I were reblogging a deceased member I would say so in the introduction to their blog post.  That being said I have suggested this before and nothing happened.  It was a few years ago after Russell Lewis passed.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) 6 months ago

Thank you for honoring the deceased, including my mother. We have had some great people on here that we have lost. Thank you, thank you.

Posted by Laura Cerrano, Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher (Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island) 6 months ago

Wonderful idea Roy. A Legacy Club comes to mind. Just need to establish the requirements besides the obvious one.

Posted by James (Jim) Lawson, DBA, Broker Associate, RSPS, BPOR, HI & PE ( LLC) 6 months ago

I think it is a wonderful idea.  I do hope that somehow it can be acheived 

We have a cast of characters on AR and we should be able to honor them


Posted by Debra Leisek ( Bay Realty,Inc Homer Alaska) 6 months ago

Good morning Roy Kelley I think it's a great idea.  We have lost many good people who contributed a lot along the way.  It would be nice to honor them.

Posted by Elyse Berman, PA, Boca Raton FL (561) 716-7824 CRS, ABR, GRI,ePR (Best Connections Realty, Inc.) 6 months ago

William Collins 

Finding ways to honor deceased members is a different challenge. My effort is to have a simple designation so that other members know the status of the member who is dead or inactive.

Posted by Roy Kelley (Realty Group Referrals) 6 months ago

Roy, I agree. It would be nice if there were a way to know and honor those folks. Another thought is when you create your profile you can decide if you want it to stay on the site or be deleted. Some may not want their blogs to live indefinitely.

Posted by Carla Freund, Raleigh - Cary Triangle Real Estate 919-602-8489 (Keller Williams Preferred Realty) 6 months ago

Roy, that is an interesting thought. I can imagine some new members would start following or may reach out to some of our deceased colleagues. You have a great idea there.

Posted by Mike Cooper, GRI, Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro (Cornerstone Business Group Inc) 6 months ago

yes Yes YES! And take them off the ranking lists - maybe by removing their points?

Posted by Lorrie Semler, REALTOR® in the Dallas area. Call/text 972-416-3417, Real Service. Real Results. Real Estate (United Real Estate) 6 months ago

Good morning Roy. Absolutely, I think it's a very good idea with merit. I support it. Next steps to make it happen?

Posted by Richard Bazinet /MBA, CRS, ABR, Phoenix Scottsdale. Sellers, Buyers & Relocations (WestUSA Realty) 6 months ago

Would be nice to recognize them somehow Roy. So many of them were amazing contributors!

Posted by Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!, So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR (Prado Real Estate South) 6 months ago

Such an important point.  The contributions of deceased and retired members should be recognized in some way!

Posted by Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty, Fifteen Years Experience in Brevard County (Bucci Realty, Inc.) 6 months ago

Roy Kelley - This is a simple way to honor the memory and keep others informed. I like your idea. In my opinion, it is an honestly good step in the right direction: Remaining truthful and staying informed. It would serve all of us well. Perhaps Liz and Bill Spear could weigh in. 

Posted by Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP, Selling Homes Changing Lives (DFW FINE PROPERTIES) 6 months ago

In memory of....

Posted by Richie Alan Naggar, agent & author (people first...then business Ran Right Realty ) 6 months ago

Dear Roy,

Sounds great! Not sure how they would program this, but if you ask a programmer, it is probably not that difficult. Memorials in this new age, where you do not necessarily have to go to their burial plot to have fond thoughts.

Posted by Dörte Engel, ABC - Annapolis, Bowie, Crofton & rest of Maryland (RE/MAX Leading Edge) 6 months ago

Maybe create a designation for them ...  "AR Legend 2010"

Not sure, sensitive subject? 

Posted by Deepak Chauhan, Irvine, CA ... the place to be (Versailles Property) 6 months ago

Roy, I feel and agree with a type of acknowledgment for those who have passed. Many help built the ActiveRain platform. Without them, AR may not exist today. Whatever it takes I am on board. 

Posted by Frank Rubi, (Frank Rubi Real Estate, LLC) 6 months ago

Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty 

Recognizing the accomplishments of deceased members is a different topic. I am just seeking a simple designation to let members know that the person is dead or inactive.

Posted by Roy Kelley (Realty Group Referrals) 6 months ago

I agree with you and hope to see this change.

Posted by Francine Viola, REALTOR®, In Tune with your Real Estate Needs (Coldwell Banker Evergreen Olympic Realty, Olympia WA) 6 months ago

Thanks so much for the reblogs of this post. They are much appreciated.

Posted by Roy Kelley (Realty Group Referrals) 6 months ago

Honor them

It speaks words to reblog a post from the past. Words from the past do have meaning today too.


Posted by Bob Force (REALTOR®), The FORCE in Maryland Real Estate (Weichert - McKenna & Vane) 6 months ago

Mr. Roy, I agree with you. We have lost so many here and would be nice to remember them.

Posted by Mike Frazier, Northwest Tennessee Realtor (Carousel Realty of Dyer County) 6 months ago

Facebook does a similar thing.  I would say if it is easy to implement it should be done.  

Posted by Kevin Mackessy, Dedicated. Qualified. Local. (Blue Olive Properties, LLC) 6 months ago

Great idea Roy!

Off topic:
You take some outstanding photos.

Posted by Dario Ferreira, Internet Marketing 6 months ago

Yes I agree Roy, it would be nice for us to honor them.

Posted by Elisa Uribe Realtor #01427070, California Homes for Sale in the East Bay (Golden Gate Sotheby's International) 6 months ago

Great idea Roy Kelley but I think Liz and Bill Spear  hit the nail on the head .

Enjoy the Holiday Season


Posted by Hannah Williams, Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-953-8818 (Re/Max Eastern inc.) 6 months ago

Good idea Roy. Some type of commemoration for those folks would be nice too.

Posted by Jerry Murphy, CRS, SRES, Anthem, Phoenix, and Scottsdale AZ Real Estate (Long Realty West Valley) 6 months ago

Information is timeless Roy Kelley 

Yours is a good idea that I'd like to see happen

Posted by Doug Dawes, Your Personal Realtor® (Keller Williams Realty - Topsfield, MA) 6 months ago

Hi Roy

I think it's a good idea so others would know in case they have not otherwise heard. I suspect many people these days don;t have anything specified in their wii about how to deal with their online profiles...but they definitely should do some planning.


Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (Solutions Real Estate ) 6 months ago

Roy, I think this is a great idea and hope AR will make this change.

Posted by Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®, Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate (Vision Quest Realty) 6 months ago

Excellent suggestion Roy Kelley  perhaps in memory of ActiveRain member.

Posted by John Pusa, Your All Time Realtor With Exceptional Service (Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Crest) 6 months ago

I don't know about inactive - some people do come back after a long absence, but I do think it would be easy for the programmers to go into their profile and add "Deceased" after a member's name - and it would be a good idea.

Posted by Marte Cliff, Your real estate writer (Marte Cliff Copywriting) 6 months ago

Living legend designation... the blog posts of a Lou Ludwig live on which benefit us all. Deceased sounds cold and final... LL is not that.

Posted by Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573, Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker (MOOERS REALTY) 6 months ago

I concur we should have a status that keeps their identity and hard work alive.

Posted by Ritu Desai, Virginia Realtor-Fairfax/Loudoun/PW-703-625-4949 (Samson Properties) 6 months ago

I agree, deceased isn't how I would want to be labeled after I expire.

Posted by Ben DeHaven, Proudly serving Winter Haven & Lakeland, Florida (Haven Realty & Investments) 6 months ago

Ben DeHaven 

How would you like to be labeled on ActiveRain after you expire? What word would you use?

Posted by Roy Kelley (Realty Group Referrals) 6 months ago

Makes sense to me....there should be something so people know when a member has passed. 

Posted by Sharon Tara, New Hampshire Home Stager (Sharon Tara Transformations) 6 months ago

I does make a lot of sense. I say lets get it done. We all probably know of a few that are gone.

Posted by Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty, Florida Space Coast Homes (Waves Realty) 6 months ago

Great idea Roy!

Posted by Ricardo Mello, Manhattan & Miami Real Estate Agent (Manhattan Miami Real Estate) 6 months ago

That’s a great idea Roy. It would also help the newbies and those of us that don’t know from commenting on their posts.

Posted by Steve Higgins (RE/MAX Kelowna) 6 months ago

You can never make everyone happy, but it would be nice to know when someone we follow passes on. In Lou's case, we knew, but there are others who passed away and we (I) had no idea. Someone earlier mentioned John Mayer's name. I had no idea.

Of course, someone would need to notify AR of the members passing. I like the idea of a title after the name, if not deceased, then "the late so-and-so".

Posted by Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty, 601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell (Front Gate Real Estate) 6 months ago

For example ---

Remembering Karen Stone

Posted by Lynn B. Friedman, Concierge Service for Our Atlanta Sellers & Buyers (Atlanta Homes ODAT Realty Call/Text 404-939-2727 Buckhead - Midtown - Westside -- and more ...) 6 months ago

Roy Kelley 

Seconding James (Jim) Lawson, DBA     

ALSO ----
Emeritus (male)  Emerita (female)  --
Designation for a person from an organization who is still alive yet no longer participating in the work.   

All the best - Lynn

    Kathleen Daniels           Bob Stewart 


Posted by Lynn B. Friedman, Concierge Service for Our Atlanta Sellers & Buyers (Atlanta Homes ODAT Realty Call/Text 404-939-2727 Buckhead - Midtown - Westside -- and more ...) 6 months ago

From all the comments it looks like this is a topic that resonates with AR Members. Perhaps the powers that be need to revisit it and come up with a plan. I don't think I really want to see diseased after my name when I'm gone, but it would be nice to make readers aware.  In Memory of, or Remembering, seem like good suggestions to me.

Posted by Denise Hamlin, Broker/Owner, Helping Happy Clients Make Smart Choices (Cardinal Realty ~ 319-400-0268) 6 months ago

Lynn Friedman definitely got it right - LEGACY CLUB
ALSO ----
Emeritus (male)  Emerita (female)  -- great question Roy and the above terms will address it.

Posted by Jill Sackler, LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate (Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500) 6 months ago

I love the suggestion Roy. I think it is important that AR do something. I do like the phrase 'In Memoriam' 

Posted by Scott Godzyk, One of Manchester NH's Leading Agents (Godzyk Real Estate Services) 6 months ago

Hi Roy Kelley . I agree with you.  What I would like to see changed is when a member who was active over 10 years ago and has not written since still shows up as ranking high in a given city. Think that ranking should be changed when they have not been active within an agreed upon amount of time. Let's give credit to those members who are are actively engaged in the AR community so they can rank higher in their area of expertise. We could also have one of your awesome flowers to honor those that have passed next to their names. I would vote for that . :)

Posted by Janice Zaltman Realtor, LEED AP (United Realty Group) 6 months ago

I agree Roy.  Their words, thoughts, ideas and helpful suggestions will always be here for us to refer to and still learn from.  Do not like "Inactive".  This indicates that someone could still reach out to them.  "Deceased, Passed On, or I like Resting In Peace" is more appropriate.  Thanks Roy!!  Let their words live on forever!!

Posted by Kimberly Thurm, Broker / Relocation Consultant ABR, CRS, GRI, SFR (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices KoenigRubloff, Naperville, IL) 6 months ago

If any designation is given, their comments on all posts need to be disabled to prevent spammers from using their posts, which would be easily recognizable with a 'deceased' designation, Roy.

To me, that's such a sad way to watch someone's legacy in writing - with all of the spammers using their posts to gain SEO, also hurting ours.

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods ( | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) 6 months ago

But how do we know if they are? Over the years we have chased down people assuming they had passed to find they had not, just gone to a different ground. While I get your drift, I think AR leaders need to focus more on spam for now. This week I have had 7 contacts using the AR form asking me if i want thier SEO services. It's annoying as heck.

Posted by Corinne Guest, Barrington Lifestyles (Corinne Guest, Realtor | Barrington Realty Company) 6 months ago

Some great comments here.  Thank you for writing this post as I agree.  I love the LL.  What about In Memoriam of a Legacy AR Member?

Posted by Jan Green, HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN (Value Added Service, 602-620-2699) 6 months ago

I like both "Rememberting" and "In Memorium". Although "Deceased" is accurate it seems, at least to me, to clinical.

I do agree that it would be nice to add this sort of designation but am aware that this could be quite a bit of extra work for the folks who keep this ship running.

Posted by Chuck Willman, Utah Homes (Utah Homes) 6 months ago

I'm with Chuck on this... "in memorium" seems to be a softer way to say that.  And frankly I like being able to still go post on some of their posts.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) 6 months ago

Great  post and some very interesting comments. Death is inevitable, yet are the posts of / by members of AR the rights of the member/ estate or the organization? Seems like a legal issue must be clarified before any action is taken, don't you think?

Posted by Kimo Jarrett, Pro Lifestyle Solutions (WikiWiki Realty) 5 months ago

Your feedback and your continued support are very much appreciated.

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